Reeling from a breakup? Learn how to build self-esteem with these 6 self-affirming acts 💪

Your world comes to a sudden halt.

All you hear are the words "It's over" from the person you love most, replaying in your mind.

You are stunned as your body reacts to the news and your brain begins to process the journey ahead.

You wonder to yourself, "How will I get through this?"

Whether the breakup is devastating or amicable, the ending of a relationship can affect your self-esteem. Self-esteem is how you value and perceive yourself.

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After a breakup, your self-esteem may be in need of extra attention and rebuilding. This is vital because your relationship with yourself influences everything in your life.

Grief tells us that what ended matters. Allow yourself the time and space to move through the grieving process.

You may have unresolved emotions, words unsaid, or negative comments said by your ex that you are still holding on to. For example, writing a letter to your ex may help purge these things.

It's your choice whether or not to send the letter, but simply writing it can help you find closure.

It's helpful to your healing process if you reflect on the relationship in a positive way.

Reflecting on the lessons, wisdom, and growth you gained can provide you with clarity and guidance in how you move forward in rebuilding yourself. Consider journaling your experiences.

Ask yourself reflection questions to help you. Some examples:

• What did I learn from this relationship?

• What positives do I want to take with me?

As you are taking this time to rebuild your self-esteem, it might be tempting to keep tabs on your ex on social media.

This can be counterproductive since seeing them have fun without you or moving on with someone new can reopen the wounds you are trying to heal.

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You don't have to cease all contact forever. Consider reducing the amount of time you spend on their social media platforms to protect your peace.

The time after a breakup can do a number on your self-esteem, but you don't have to do it alone.

Lean on your support system to help you through this time. They can offer a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and get you out of the house for some fun!

Although your loved ones may be a support for you, they are not an unlimited resource. They may grow weary hearing you constantly recount what happened.

If you need additional support, consider going to therapy to help to navigate your feelings and rebuild your self-esteem

After a breakup, it is easy to replay mistakes and hurtful words. Take note of your mental self-talk. Negative or critical self-talk can destroy your self-esteem.

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A helpful tool to challenge these thoughts is to practice saying an affirmation. This is a positive phrase that generally starts with the word "I." For example, "I will become stronger because of this."

If you notice that your self-talk is increasingly negative, consider seeking out a therapist. They can give you personalized tools to help you be kinder to yourself.

Practicing self-care as you heal is a great way to rebuild your self-esteem. Doing something to spoil yourself is an easy way to boost your mood.

Consider taking yourself out for dinner, run a hot bubble bath, or a get away with or without friends. This can help you feel more like yourself.

Spoiling yourself is nice, however, self-care can also be fulfilling your basic needs like proper diet, exercise, and sleep.

You will get through this breakup! 💗

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Learn how to build self-esteem post breakup with these steps: