Do you know how your emotions affect you?
Recognizing your emotions and learning to manage them is one of the most important skills you can have.
When we name our emotions, we can tame them.
And when we aren't aware of our emotions, they can control us.
Types Of Emotions
There are two categories: primary and secondary emotions.
Primary emotions are how we react to events and situations.
Secondary emotions are reactions to how we feel.
Primary Emotions
The body's first response that alerts you about your needs
Comes on strongly
Does not last very long
Eg., Feeling sad when someone breaks your trust
Primary emotions include: anger, fear, sadness, disgust, surprise, anticipation, trust and joy.
Quiz
Janet feels anxious about an upcoming interview. She becomes frustrated and ashamed of herself for not being more confident. What is the primary emotion in this scenario?
Secondary Emotions
Reactions to our primary emotions
Involves emotions that can be hard to understand
Can last for much longer than primary emotions
Eg., Feeling shame about being sad.
These are learned emotions that we pick-up in childhood from the people around us, like guilt, shame, confusion, resentment, frustration, and remorse.
Quiz
Which fact is true about secondary emotions?
Primary vs Secondary Emotions: Telling The Difference
How do we know if we are experiencing a primary vs secondary emotions?
Consider this example.
Jeff turns around to see his 5 year old son, Max, running into the street.
Jeff feels a sense of fear and panic.
Jeff starts yelling angrily until Max starts crying.
In this scenario:
The primary emotion is fear.
The secondary emotion is anger.
If Jeff had been aware of his emotions, he could have controlled his anger and responded more appropriately to his young son.
Take Action
The next time that you feel a strong emotional reaction and it doesn't go away quickly, pay close attention.
Ask yourself: Is what I'm feeling a reaction to this situation?
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This Byte has been authored by
Chitra Krishnan
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