Have you ever felt overworked and unappreciated? This can happen if your partner isn't helping clean your home.
While it can seem hard, talking it out with your partner is the best solution to help them understand how you're feeling about your uneven chore workload.
Discuss Household Roles Before Moving In Together
Before you move in together, sit down and talk about who will be responsible for which chores. Create a list together that you can update as new chores appear.
Consider the following:
How frequently do the chores need to be done?
Are there seasonal chores?
What should be done if one person doesn't have time to clean?
Do your chore expectations match?
Be sure you start off on the right foot! Otherwise, you might be in for a shock.
Monica and Sam are moving in together next month. What should they work on before they get their keys?
Display Chore Expectations
It can be difficult to remember everything that needs to be done. Hang up a list of chores that shows who's responsible for them and when they need to be completed.
You can hang it near the cleaning products, or in a frequently viewed area. If you'd like to be more private, consider using a tracking app.
Have Monthly Meetings
Schedule a monthly meeting to talk about the chore workload. Be sure to discuss:
If the chore list needs to be updated
If the chore workload is balanced and fair
How each person feels about the current chore roles
How the chore schedule is working for both of you
Make sure that you're happy with the arrangement. Don't be afraid to speak up in the meeting!
Cal and Suki have lived together for a year. Cal thinks Suki has started to clean less. What should they do?
Setting chore expectations takes work and energy but it's worth it in the long run!
To make sure your chore expectations are met:
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