So you lied to your parents but it was unintentional.
It just happened!
They'll believe you, right? Right?
Reasons Why Youngsters Or People Lie
There are many reasons why you might lie to your parents:
to get out of trouble
to get out of a situation you think your parents will overreact to
to maintain privacy
to avoid disappointing your parents
How To Undo It?
Being caught lying is not a pleasant experience.
You felt comfortable doing it in the moment, but now, the guilt is killing you and you want to undo the lie.
Sally was supposed to turn in her term paper but she got caught up using social media and missed the deadline. When her mom asked her if she had submitted it, she said yes! Now, she's in trouble. She hasn't turned in her paper, which will cost her grade, and she also lied to her mom.
How can Sally make things right?
Wait till the report card comes
Say her teacher didn't receive it
Tell her mom the truth
Say that the deadline got extended
Steps To Restore Trust: Part 1
It won't be easy to restore your parents' trust but it's doable.
1) Own it!
The first step won't be easy but it will put you on a path to recover trust.
If you own it, it will end the cycle of lies after lies after lies...
A heartfelt and sincere apology will set things in the right direction. The following statements are simple ways to apologize:
I'm sorry I hurt you by... I was wrong.
I should have…/I shouldn’t have…
I'm sorry for hurting your feelings.
I regret the way I acted.
I'm ashamed that I lied.
I'm sorry, I made a mistake.
Steps To Restore Trust: Part 2
3) Explain Without Excuses
Excuses won't get you anywhere. But an explanation will help build better communication. Explaining your feelings and situation will help your parents understand your standpoint.
4) Damage Control
The damage is done, so you'll have to bear the burden for the time being until you win back their trust. Promise to be honest with them from now on and follow through on it!
Your parents still have trouble trusting you after catching you in a lie. What should you do?
Get your sibling in trouble
Communicate your feelings
Help with chores
Shrug it off. Who cares!
Lying to your parents might damage your relationship with them. Once you break their trust, it'll be very difficult to earn it back.
Next time you feel the urge to lie, ask yourself:
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