Do you get blank stares when you ask coworkers why their performance is slipping?
Are you met with only silence when discussing a mistake during a team meeting?
Getting someone to share their viewpoint in a difficult conversation is a skill that you can use in both your personal and work life.
It's important for resolving conflict and building strong relationships, and can lead to more innovative solutions.
Create A Safe Environment
Sharing ideas and opinions takes courage. People need to feel safe and trust those around them before they speak up.
To create a safe environment :
Establish some ground rules (e.g., all opinions are welcome, no interrupting, listen without judgment)
Tell people ahead of time that you'll be asking for their opinion
Break up into smaller groups ormeet one-on-one
Offer multiple ways of sharing (e.g., online survey, suggestion box, group session)
For individual discussions, meet in an informal and neutral setting (e.g., restaurant or coffee shop)
Sam needs to meet with her project team to get their perspective on why the project is behind schedule. What should she do?
Turn It Into A Dialogue
Instead of presenting your point of view and asking for opinions, start a conversation.
To get the conversation started:
Share stories or experiences with each other before asking for opinions.
Resist the urge to have all the answers . Encourage others to speak up during pauses in the conversation.
Ask open-ended questions that show you're listening, engaged, and interested in their viewpoint (e.g., "That's interesting, why do you feel that way?")
Make It Worthwhile
People need to know they're being heard and that their opinions will be taken seriously. When they see that you care, they'll share more .
Here are some tips to show people you care:
Provide positive feedback
Thank them for sharing
Invite them to offer solutions
Discuss what you'll do with their feedback
Make them feel wrong
Negate their input (e.g., Avoid saying "Yes, but...")
Ask accusatory questions (e.g., "Why would you think that?")
Surprise them or force a response
Making an effort to get other points of view shows that you care and helps to resolve challenging situations.
The next time you're faced with a difficult conversation in your personal or work life and want others to share their perspective:
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