You've broken up with your partner but you still want to be friends.
Now you've got to figure out how to do that without things getting messy.
Put Some Distance Between You And Your Ex
Even if you still want to be friends, it may be a good idea to spend some time apart.
This will help you both get some closure and figure out what you really want.
Ask Yourself Why You Still Want To Be Friends
Take the time to think through why you want to remain friends with your ex.
Good Reasons to Stay Friends
The break up was mutual and you both would rather be friends
You are both over the relationship and enjoy hanging out
You both feel you were better friends than lovers
Bad Reasons to Stay Friends
You still have romantic feelings for them and don't want to lose them
You think that staying friends could lead to getting back together
They insist that you stay friends even if the idea makes you uncomfortable
Reach Out To Your Ex
After enough time has passed and you still want to remain friends, reach out to your ex.
Talk to them about how you feel and get an idea of where they are at.
You talk to your ex and get the vibe that they still have romantic feelings for you. Should the two of you stay friends?
It can be easy to slip into old relationship patterns when hanging out with an ex.
Make sure you are both on the same page about where you draw the line between a platonic friendship versus a romantic relationship.
Enjoy The Friendship
Few people know us as well as the people we've dated.
Enjoy spending time together and being a part of each other's lives.
If either you or your ex finds a new partner, accept it as part of the deal and discuss any boundaries you might need to re-establish.
Do you think you and your ex could make a platonic friendship work?
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