There has been a lot of progress with LGBTQ+ equality and acceptance in recent years, but coming out as LGBTQ+ can be a very scary time for a young person.

There are many instances when a child might come out to you. It could be your own child, a younger sibling, a student, or a camper that is under your care.
Use the following tips so you know what to say and what to avoid saying to best support a child who comes out to you.
What to say
When a child comes out to you, reinforce that you care about them and thank them for trusting you.

Ask them what kind of support they need.
Did you know?
LGBTQ+ children are more than 4 times as likely to attempt suicide than their peers. It’s even more common when they don’t have a safe and affirming place to be themselves.
What not to say
Don’t ignore it.
Don’t say that you already knew.
Don’t say that it’s a phase.
Don’t use religion to shame.
Quiz
A child says that they have something to talk to you about and tells you that they're bisexual. How should you respond? Select all that apply.
Commit to being an ally and get support for yourself
Take the time to learn and understand LGBTQ+ terminology. Terms are always expanding and changing.
Learn about the history of LGBTQ+ leaders and the movement for LGBTQ+ equality.
It’s normal to have questions and maybe even concerns about a child who has come out to you. Find support for yourself so you can better support them. Websites like My Kid is Gay or organizations like PFLAG or The Trevor Project have great resources for friends and family of children who identify as LGBTQ+.
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Practice

Imagine a child you care about comes to talk to you. Maybe you already have an idea of what this conversation will be about or maybe it comes as a surprise.
Child: Hey...can I talk to you about something?
You: Of course! What is it?
Child: I've been wanting to talk to you about this for a while...I'm gay.
Quiz
How should you respond to the conversation above? Select all that apply.
Take Action
You never want to pressure anyone to come out, but in the meantime, you can educate yourself!

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