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Have you ever been forced to work on a project with people you don't get along with? Or been pulled into all sorts of errands by pesky family members?

Social responsibilities can be exhausting!

Wendy Williams on her talk show telling someone, 'You're exhausting me.'

When we can't escape our social responsibilities, we should "recharge" our social batteries by prioritizing social rest.

Social rest is all about pursuing social connections that energize you and taking a break from social connections that exhaust you. Social rest is important because it will help you recharge for the people and social activities that matter most to you.

Did you know?

Social rest is only one of the seven types of rest articulated by physician Saundra Dalton-Smith.

Introverts vs. Extroverts

The way you approach social interactions determines if you're an introvert or an extrovert.

Knowing which personality type you have will help you pick the best social rest routines to incorporate into your daily life.

Graph depicting extroverts and introverts.Image courtesy of Larysa on Adobe Stock

Introverts

  • Value alone time

  • Prefer small, intimate gatherings

  • Often feel drained after extensive social interactions

Extroverts

  • Value time with loved ones

  • Prefer large events to meet new people

  • Often feel energized by extensive social interactions

Did you know?

One study showed that 50.7% of Americans identify as introverts, and 49.3% as extroverts.

Strategy 1: Talk a walk

A man walking alone in a city.Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

Whether it be at the office, at school, at home, or somewhere else, our social responsibilities are usually location-based.

One of the best strategies for social rest is to take a physical break away and be alone from it all.

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Introverts may benefit from taking a walk alone to recharge.

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Extroverts may benefit from taking a walk with friends to recharge.

Did you know?

Not only are walks good for social rest, but they also produce endorphins to help you manage stress.

Strategy 2: Entertain yourself

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We can't always escape our social environments in order to achieve social rest. In that case, consider:

  • Watching a movie

  • Reading a book

  • Playing a video game

These activities allow you to take a break from your social responsibilities, relax, and immerse yourself in a story.

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Introverts may benefit by enjoying solo entertainment to recharge.

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Extroverts may benefit from quiet companionship — being with others without the pressure to socialize — to recharge.

Strategy 3: Try a social media cleanse

If you have one or more social media accounts, you know that notifications pop up everywhere — on our phones, laptops, and even watches!

For both introverts and extroverts, the constant flow of information can feel like overstimulating social interactions, even when it's technically your technology "talking" to you.

Someone using a social media on their laptop and phone at the same time.Photo by Austin Distel on Unsplash

Flaticon IconIntroverts may benefit from turning off their devices completely to recharge.

Flaticon IconExtroverts may benefit from switching to "do not disturb" mode to recharge.

Quiz

What can a social media cleanse look like? Select all that apply:

Strategy 4: Connect with your closest friends and family

Friends TV show characters going in for a group hug.

Social rest can still be social!

Instead of focusing on the social interactions that drain you, make time for the people that energize you, like your friends and family.

Keeping your loved ones involved can also help you manage your social responsibilities. For example, planning a surprise party for a friend can be overwhelming — ask if people close to you can help out!

Flaticon IconIntroverts may benefit from reaching out to only a small circle of trusted people to recharge.

Flaticon IconExtroverts may benefit from splitting their time among their many loved ones equally to recharge.

Did you know?

Research has shown that the presence of loved ones enhances mental well-being.

Strategy 5: Set social limits

Often, we can pack our schedules full of social commitments to different people such that socializing becomes exhausting, not energizing.

A Bojack Horseman character with a jam-packed weekly planner. The final item reads: '2:00pm Sweet Sweet Death'.

In this case, it may be wise to limit the quantity and frequency of social responsibilities so you don't feel overwhelmed. For example, you could:

  • Complete only one social gathering every day

  • Build in breaks between each social gathering

  • Add "solo days" into your schedule

Flaticon IconIntroverts may benefit from having built-in solo breaks where they can recharge.

Flaticon IconExtroverts may benefit from focusing their energy on only a few people per day to recharge.

Did you know?

It's recommended that adults get between 1-3 hours of daily social interaction.

Take Action

A person reading a book while sipping on a drink.

When social responsibilities become too draining or overwhelming, try these strategies:

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This Byte has been authored by

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Kristi Wong

Graduate Student at University of Toronto

BA

English

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