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I messed up.

Did you know?

Be careful not to overdo this step and end up in the realm of self-pity. If you start saying self-depricating things, the other person might feel pressured to start comforting you, when the focus should be on your apology.

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Sources:

1 https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-apologize-more-sincerely-3144467

2 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LBhyapoaKX8

Step 2: Express Clear Remorse

Part of repairing the relationship after a breach of trust is recognizing the harm you have done to the other person.

So, it's important to express that you understand the consequences of your lie, and that you truly feel sorry for causing those consequences. If you show that you understand the harm you've caused, the other person has a better chance of believing your apology.

How to apologize for lying: ✅

"When I lied about my debt, I put you in a risky financial situation without your consent, and I really regret not being transparent with you."

How NOT to apologize for lying: ✖️

"I shouldn't have lied about my debt. I'm sorry."

A cartoon character looks suspicious with the text "when they apologize but they don't know what they did."

If you truly don't know the harm you've caused, it's okay to acknowledge it. But make sure you pair it with a genuine desire to care for the other person and hear their side of the story.

To open up that conversation, consider asking:

"How did my actions make you feel?"

1

Source:

1 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vQK7gHE8VUU

Step 3: Commit to Being Better

For some, saying sorry is enough. But an apology can feel empty without a commitment to change. What's the point of apologizing if you just lie again at the next opportunity, and break their trust all over again?

Do ✅

  • Say what you plan to do to strive for change.

  • You might not be perfect, but showing a genuine desire to avoid future lying and a willingness to do better means that you're willing to put effort into this relationship.

Don't ✖️

  • Leave your apology without expressing how you want to make situation better moving forward.

  • Use vague phrases like "I'll do better" with no explanation, which may sound ingenuine.

If you're not sure how to change, make it a conversation. Ask them, "How can I make things right?"

Two hands, with one wrapping a bandaid around the finger of the other hand. Photo by Diana Polekhina on Unsplash

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Apologizing for lying can be scary, but it's better to come clean and prioritize open, honest communication in your relationship with others.

Here are some small steps you can take to start working towards your apology:

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Have you ever lied to someone and felt it hanging over your conscience, but didn't know how to apologize to set things right?

Moira Rose from Schitt's Creek frowns and says, "I am suddenly overwhelmed with regret."

You're definitely not alone! Almost everyone experiences this at some point in their lives. Purposeful and careful apologies can help you to repair and even strengthen the relationships that may have been damaged by the lie itself

Learn how to apologize for lying, in a way that can help you mend the relationship.

Step 1: Acknowledge Your Mistake

If you regret lying and want to make amends, good news — you've already taken a huge step in the right direction! Lying not only harms your relationship with the other person by damaging their trust in you. It also lowers your self-esteem if it happens over and over again.

A paper heart ripped down the middle. Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

Nobody wants to listen to a half-hearted apology. When you start your apology...

Do ✅

Take full responsibility for your lie and express your remorse clearly for what you've done.

How to apologize for lying:

"I made a mistake when I lied about that, and I'm sorry."

Don't ✖️

Try to shift the blame to the other person or use vague words. This shows that you aren't truly remorseful.

How NOT to apologize for lying:

"I'm sorry that you didn't like what I did. I guess that was my bad."

Quiz

Which statement truly takes responsibility without avoiding or pushing blame?

Did you know?

Be careful not to overdo this step and end up in the realm of self-pity. If you start saying self-depricating things, the other person might feel pressured to start comforting you, when the focus should be on your apology.

Step 2: Express Clear Remorse

Part of repairing the relationship after a breach of trust is recognizing the harm you have done to the other person.

So, it's important to express that you understand the consequences of your lie, and that you truly feel sorry for causing those consequences. If you show that you understand the harm you've caused, the other person has a better chance of believing your apology.

How to apologize for lying: ✅

"When I lied about my debt, I put you in a risky financial situation without your consent, and I really regret not being transparent with you."

How NOT to apologize for lying: ✖️

"I shouldn't have lied about my debt. I'm sorry."

A cartoon character looks suspicious with the text "when they apologize but they don't know what they did."

If you truly don't know the harm you've caused, it's okay to acknowledge it. But make sure you pair it with a genuine desire to care for the other person and hear their side of the story.

To open up that conversation, consider asking:

"How did my actions make you feel?"

Step 3: Commit to Being Better

For some, saying sorry is enough. But an apology can feel empty without a commitment to change. What's the point of apologizing if you just lie again at the next opportunity, and break their trust all over again?

Do ✅

  • Say what you plan to do to strive for change.

  • You might not be perfect, but showing a genuine desire to avoid future lying and a willingness to do better means that you're willing to put effort into this relationship.

Don't ✖️

  • Leave your apology without expressing how you want to make situation better moving forward.

  • Use vague phrases like "I'll do better" with no explanation, which may sound ingenuine.

If you're not sure how to change, make it a conversation. Ask them, "How can I make things right?"

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Did you know?

Be careful not to overdo this step and end up in the realm of self-pity. If you start saying self-depricating things, the other person might feel pressured to start comforting you, when the focus should be on your apology.

2

Sources:

1 https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-apologize-more-sincerely-3144467

2 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LBhyapoaKX8

Step 2: Express Clear Remorse

Part of repairing the relationship after a breach of trust is recognizing the harm you have done to the other person.

So, it's important to express that you understand the consequences of your lie, and that you truly feel sorry for causing those consequences. If you show that you understand the harm you've caused, the other person has a better chance of believing your apology.

How to apologize for lying: ✅

"When I lied about my debt, I put you in a risky financial situation without your consent, and I really regret not being transparent with you."

How NOT to apologize for lying: ✖️

"I shouldn't have lied about my debt. I'm sorry."

A cartoon character looks suspicious with the text "when they apologize but they don't know what they did."

If you truly don't know the harm you've caused, it's okay to acknowledge it. But make sure you pair it with a genuine desire to care for the other person and hear their side of the story.

To open up that conversation, consider asking:

"How did my actions make you feel?"

1

Source:

1 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vQK7gHE8VUU

Step 3: Commit to Being Better

For some, saying sorry is enough. But an apology can feel empty without a commitment to change. What's the point of apologizing if you just lie again at the next opportunity, and break their trust all over again?

Do ✅

  • Say what you plan to do to strive for change.

  • You might not be perfect, but showing a genuine desire to avoid future lying and a willingness to do better means that you're willing to put effort into this relationship.

Don't ✖️

  • Leave your apology without expressing how you want to make situation better moving forward.

  • Use vague phrases like "I'll do better" with no explanation, which may sound ingenuine.

If you're not sure how to change, make it a conversation. Ask them, "How can I make things right?"

Two hands, with one wrapping a bandaid around the finger of the other hand. Photo by Diana Polekhina on Unsplash

Take Action

A mother and son hug each other. Photo by Nathan Anderson on Unsplash

Apologizing for lying can be scary, but it's better to come clean and prioritize open, honest communication in your relationship with others.

Here are some small steps you can take to start working towards your apology:

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