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Are you ready to move out on your own, but aren’t ready to live alone?
Do you want a roommate and think a friend would be the best option?
Learn how to successfully move in with a friend!
Choose Wisely
I’m sure you have a lot of friends. You can probably think of several who would make a great roommate and others that may not be the best choice.
Take some time to create a list of qualities you would want in a roommate. Don’t be afraid to list everything.
Be specific.
This is a big decision!
It's not worth losing a friend over a bad roommate experience.
Set Ground Rules
Once you’ve decided which friend will be your new roommate, sit down together and make a list of ground rules.
Each of you needs to contribute to this list.
Some topics to include on the list may be:
Thoughts on overnight guests
How you feel about parties
Cleanliness and organization
Financial responsibilities
Cooking and grocery shopping
Quiz
You like to study on the weekends and clutter makes you anxious. Which friend would make a good roommate?
Since Kim wants to create a cleaning schedule, she is likely to keep clutter to a minimum. The others may not be the best choices based on their lifestyle not fitting with yours.
Did you know?
Chores
There will be household chores that need to be done around your shared space.
Sit down with your new roommate and make a list of those chores.
Decide who is responsible for each and how often they will be completed.
Example Chore List
Kevin
Wash dishes throughout the week
Clean kitchen on the weekend
Dust common living spaces weekly
Mike
Take out the trash throughout the week
Clean the bathroom on the weekend
Vacuum common living spaces weekly
Will you be responsible for the same list each week? Or will the list change weekly?
The way this is handled is up to the two of you.
A cleaning schedule may seem unnecessary, but it’s important to set the standard for cleanliness before it causes tension between you and your friend.
Did you know?
Groceries
Unnecessary arguments can occur when you are craving a bowl of cereal and you come home to find out there is no milk!
It's important to have a grocery conversation.
Are you planning to share groceries or purchase your own?
Depending on your decision, here are some questions you may want to discuss with your new roommate before moving in together.
Sharing Groceries
Who's purchasing which groceries?
Are we grocery shopping together and splitting the bill?
If I finish an item, how quickly do I need to replenish it?
Should I text you to let you know I finished something?
Purchasing Own Groceries
If I run out of something, can I use some of yours?
How will we keep track of who owns each item?
Will we have our own section of the refrigerator?
How will we split the cabinets?
Quiz
You want to purchase your own groceries when you live with a friend. Dan is your best friend, but is always eating your cereal and snacks without asking when he's over at your place. Would he make a good roommate?
Since Dan is always eating your food without asking when he comes over to visit, he may not be the best roommate option.
Bills
The way you handle the bills with your new roommate is very important to successfully live with a friend.
Discuss the amenities you are looking to get in your new place. What are the must-haves?
Music streaming services like Apple Music or Spotify
Amazon Prime
Streaming services like Netflix, Hulu, and Disney+
Internet
Questions to Discuss
How will you split the bills between the two of you?
Will all the bills be in one person's name?
How will you give each other money for the bills? cash? e-transfer? Paypal?
Steps to Successful Bill Payment
Sit down and look at all the bills together.
Decide whether they will be paid online or through the mail.
Make a schedule of when they are due. Post the schedule as a reminder.
Determine how many days prior to the due date you need to give each other money in order to have the bills paid on time.
Take Action
Are you ready to find a friend that would make a good roommate?
Follow these steps to successfully move in with a friend.
This Byte has been authored by
Amanda Kulik
Instructional Designer/eLearning Developer