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Ever been invited to a night out that doesn't quite fit your budget?

Imagine wanting to say "no," but not wanting to seem uninterested or distant with friends.

Two friends in a stadium. While one looks concerned, the other says, 'We've all been there, right?'

Well, you can say "no" β€” with loud budgeting.

Icon of a megaphone.

What is loud budgeting?

It's a trend that encourages you to be open about your finances and decline events you can't afford or don't wish to spend money on. This strategy can keep your finances on track while showing your friends that you still care about connecting.

1. Be Open About Your Budget Goals

Politely sharing your budget goals is a great way to help friends understand your "no."

Keep it personal!

Instead of: "I can't come."

A young woman putting her one hand up to gesture 'nope' while shaking her head.

Try: "I'm actually keeping to a budget this month!"

McCauley Culkin in the movie Home Alone looking at the camera with dewy eyes, saying 'I'm sorry.'

Example: Your friend invites you to a concert, but it's a bit pricey. You can say, "That sounds amazing, but I'm sticking to a budget for now. Maybe I can join in for something else soon?"

Why it works: When you share that you're focused on budgeting, friends realize it's not about the event or them β€” it's just your financial goal.

2. Suggest an Alternative

Show you're interested in connecting with friends by proposing something more budget friendly. This loud budgeting strategy shows them that you do want to spend time together β€” just in a way that fits your plan.

Keep it positive!

Instead of: "I can't go out!"

A man hesitates to say, 'I can't.'

Try: "I'd love to catch up! How about coffee instead?"

Two women in a coffee shop, raising their mugs of coffee for a 'cheers'.

Example: When invited to an expensive dinner, say, "Dinner sounds great, but I'm keeping things simple. Want to hang out over coffee or a walk instead?"

Why it works: Suggesting a low-cost option shows friends you value spending time together, even if it's in a more affordable way.

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3. Use Friendly Language

Tone matters when it comes to budget conversations. A warm, playful approach keeps things comfortable and avoids awkwardness.

Keep it lighthearted!

Instead of: "I can't afford that."

A woman looking very serious and concerned, saying, 'Baby, we cannot afford that.'

Try: "My wallet's taking a break!"

A man looking inside his empty wallet, nods, and says, 'My wallet disagrees.'

Example: When someone invites you on a trip, say, "I'd love to, but my budget says no this time. I'll join you next time!"

Why it works: Lighthearted language keeps things friendly, making your "no" feel casual and non-judgmental.

Loud Budgeting Quiz 1: Keeping it Positive

Icon of an airplane flying over a tropical island.

You've been invited to a weekend beach trip with friends, but it's too expensive for you right now. What's a friendly way to decline using loud ludgeting?

A

"What?! I can't believe you'd ask me that when you know I'm broke!"

B

"That sounds amazing, but I'm trying to save right now. How about we plan a day hike together soon?"

C

"I can't make it, sorry."

D

β€œI'd rather not spend that much on a trip with you guys!"

Quiz

Which of the above options would be the most positive way to decline?

4. Stay Consistent

Consistency is key to loud budgeting. Show your friends that budgeting is a real commitment for you, not just an occasional excuse.

Keep it steady!

Instead of: "I just can't make it."

A woman seemingly taken by surprise, shaking her head with a mocking smile, saying, 'What Money?'

Try: "I'm sticking to my budget, but let's try something else next month!"

Two men doing a forearm handshake. One is telling the other, 'You did that bro, keep that sh*t goin.''

Loud Budgeting Quiz 2: Keeping it Steady

Icon of an invitation to a fancy event.

You receive an invitation to a big fancy event that doesn't quite fit into your budget. You've already been sticking to your budget goals for a few months. What's a good response to keep your loud budgeting message steady?

A

β€œI might not be able to afford it, but I’ll see if I can go.”

B

β€œI’m trying to budget, but maybe I’ll just join this one time."

C

β€œNo, I’m trying to save and can’t do anything with you.”

D

β€œI’ve been budgeting for a while, so I’ll pass. I'll host a potluck next month!”

Quiz

Which of the above response is the best choice to keep your budgeting message steady?

Take Action

Homer Simpson with an envelope, saying, 'I'm financially responsible for my own actions!'

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Dora Yang

Learning Experience Designer

BEd, BA

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