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You're walking down the hall, and a familiar face approaches, smiling at you in recognition. You start to panic as you hear your name. Your brain scrambles and fails to give you that critical info:
What's their name?
Don't despair!
Forgetting someone's name happens to everyone. The more pressing concern is:
How do you bounce back? How should you respond and make sure you don't offend the person?
Did you know?
Honesty Really Is The Best Policy
If it's someone you've only met once or twice, it might be easier to own up.
Keep it simple, don't drag it out. Say: "I'm sorry, I've just gone completely blank."
Sweeten the deal by mentioning what you do remember about them, "You pitched a great idea at the sales meeting last week when we met."
Emphasize that you haven't forgotten the person, "Of course I remember you, but your name has slipped my mind..."
Quiz
Bill runs into a colleague at work but can't remember their name. Which of the following would be the best response?
Directly asking the person their name minimizes the moment's embarrassment and allows the conversation to move on faster. All the other responses emphasize that the person and their name have been forgotten, which can be hurtful.
Who Am I?
Jill bumps into a familiar face at the copy machine but can't recall their name. She considers responding in the following ways:
A - Hi, I'm Jill, and I work in HR; we met at the training seminar last week.
B - Hi, I'm Jill, we met last week. What's your name?
C - Hi, I'm Jill; it's good to see you again.
D - Hi, I'm Jill. I forgot your name.
Quiz
Which of the above responses is the most suitable for Jill to reintroduce herself?
Both C and D reinforce the fact that you have forgotten their name. Response B lacks context. A is the best option because it makes a connection with the person and gives them a chance to respond in kind, without making the name-forgetting explicit.
Snoop Around!
If you have met several times, it is probably not a good idea to ask for their name. Instead:
Prompt your memory by adding some context to the face. Try: "It's been too long. When was the last time we met?"
Ask for a business card.
Hand them your phone and ask them to enter their email or contact details.
Or, fall back on this trick from lifehack.org.
Did you know?
This Byte has been authored by
Lubna Yasin
Design Educator