4 "funny" first date questions you should avoid 🤔 🛑

41% of people say it takes 2-3 minutes to decide whether they want a second date!

Once you've made it past the first few minutes, you have a 59% chance of making it to the second date if you can avoid asking these 4 "funny" questions.

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Question #1

"I was wondering if you always wear this much makeup or is it just when you go out?"

It's best to avoid asking a question about someone's appearance. Be kind and offer a compliment instead.

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Question #2

"You're amazing! So why are you still available?"

This question makes it seem like there's something wrong with being single. Try rephrasing this question to, "You seem great, why have I not met you sooner?"

Rihanna saying, 'Where have you been all my life?'

Did you know?

Being negative during the first date is the kiss of death because it is a turn-off for most people. Act happy because people prefer to be around happy people. (www.factslegend.org, "60 awesome dating facts for you", 2021)

Question #3

"My ex was a stalker. How's your mental health?"

This might sound cute to you but can come off as really strange to your date if you ask them about their mental health or bring up your past relationships. It's better to focus on questions that help you to get to know them.

A woman on a date reacting to an awkward question. The text reads, 'Screaming internally.'

Question #4

"Do you love to drink? Because I really do!"

This may seem like a funny question but can come off as offensive to someone that doesn't know you. They may not realize you're joking, or they may not drink alcohol at all.

Leslie Knope from Parks & Rec laughing, and then realizing the situation isn't funny. 'Oh, this is bad,' she says.

Quiz

You're 20 minutes into an incredible 1st date. You're dying to connect better with this amazing catch. What would be some better questions to ask?

What is something you are proud of?

Can I taste your wine and pasta?

What do you like to do for fun?

Do I look attractive to you?

Take Action

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Get ready for a successful first date!

Prepare ahead for your date by thinking about and possibly rehearsing engaging questions you could ask.

Be aware of your date's body language as your conversation progresses.

Don't be afraid to pivot to other questions and topics of conversation.

Check out this related Byte: 5 questions to spark great first date conversations 💖