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A young person with low-self esteem saying, 'I will never pass Math.' Improve your self esteem.

Richard feels he's not good enough. He dislikes how he looks, has lost interest in math because of low scores, and feels no one likes him.

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Have you ever felt like Richard? Focussing on your goals, strengths, and relationships may help you improve your self-esteem.

Did you know?

Self-esteem means how much you value yourself (positivepsychology.com, "What is Self-Esteem? A Psychologist Explains", 2018).

Signs of low self-esteem

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Signs of low self-esteem include:

  • Lack of self-confidence

  • Comparing yourself with others

  • Not accepting compliments

  • Blaming yourself when things go wrong

  • Focusing on your failures instead of your accomplishments

  • Feeling worthless, sad, or depressed

Did you know?

Self-esteem isn't about your skills and abilities. You can be really good at something and still have low self-esteem (skillsyouneed.com, "Improving Self-Esteem").

Set achievable goals

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Set realistic goals, then work on them step by step.

Self-esteem improves as you work towards goals that are important to you.

Richard has set these goals for himself:

  • Exercise 30 minutes 3 times a week to help feel physically fit.

  • Practice math for one hour every day to improve his understanding.

  • Call or meet his friends Lydia and Aniket twice a week in order to improve social relationships.

Recognize your strengths

Everyone is good at something. What do you enjoy doing?

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These hobbies can help to boost your mood:

  • Artwork

  • Yoga/meditation

  • Learning a new language

  • Cooking

  • Community service

  • Gardening

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Richard sings very well and loves playing the ukulele. He's going to attend a performing arts camp this summer.

Did you know?

Self-esteem and self-confidence have some key differences. Self-confidence means how much you believe in your abilities. While self-esteem develops throughout your life, self-confidence depends on the situation you're in at the moment. You might feel really confident in some situations but less confident at other times (University of Queensland, "Self-esteem and self-confidence").

Invest in positive relationships

Build relationships with people who appreciate you.

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Spend time with people who accept you for who you are. Spend less time with those who bring you down.

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Richard feels confident singing in the presence of Lydia and Aniket. They're always encouraging him to pursue his talent.

Take care of yourself

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Ways to do this include:

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Richard plans to eat healthier and cut down on junk food.

Ryna's to-do list

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Ryna is brilliant academically and healthy for her age and weight. She recently completed her undergraduate degree with high grades and now needs to find employment in order to support herself.

However, she's hesitant to apply for jobs. She thinks she is too fat and won't be hired.

Ryna was advised to create a to-do list in order to be positive. She's considering:

  1. Go on a crash diet immediately.

  2. Stop socializing and focus on getting jobs.

  3. Pick up a hobby.

  4. Stop comparing herself with fashion models.

Quiz

Which options are applicable to Ryna in order to boost her self-esteem? Select all that apply.

Take Action

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If you feel that you have low self-esteem, here are some helpful steps to raise it:

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Chirasree Sen-Varma

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